For Every Action
According to the laws of
physics, 'for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction'.
But, do you know that this principle applies to interpersonal
relationships as well? Think of it
this way: YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW. That is, to receive, first you give.
If you want respect, it
begins by you respecting others. If you want someone to be interested in
you, first show interest in that someone. If you want understanding,
seek first to understand. If you want to be trustworthy, trust first. If
you seek to be treated or compensated what you think you are
worth, first recognize and
provide that value. If you want some attention, first pay attention. Get the
Have you observed how a couple who
just fell in love seem to glow in their happiness? They're just giving
and receiving large doses of what they want for themselves. When you
love and care for someone, anyone, your spouse or partner, your best
friend, your parents, or your kids, just GIVE LOVE,
GET LOVED BACK. It's that
Are you looking to
give your child something? Here's one that would make a big difference -
give him self-esteem. Self-esteem is a person's feeling of self-worth,
one's sense of importance. You can raise a person's self-esteem two
ways: by assuring that he is loved, accepted, and appreciated, no
matter what, and by showing your faith in his ability to achieve. Now,
think. The more you nurture your child's self-esteem, the more you
increase yours. It works on you too! That's truly THE JOY OF PARENTING.
You can practice this too
if you are in a position of authority. The teachers who strive to raise
their students' self-esteem are the happiest. Same with employers and
employees, managers and their teams, sales people and their clients. When
others depend on you or look up to you, you automatically raise your own
self-esteem just by
raising theirs. What an awesome reward!
So, think. Sometime ago,
someone told you that 'it is better to give than to receive'. That's no
cliché. It's a principle.
* Based on
Brian Tracy's teachings in the Psychology of Achievement
programme. More at www.briantracyintl.com